how I’ve waited so long for summer nights when there’s magic in the air and I don’t have a care

I try not to buy tops that I know will only be in style for a season and then out the next. However, this off the shoulder style looks like it will be around for a while! I wasn’t really sure how I felt about this style in the beginning. To be honest, I don’t like my shoulders because of acne and my scoliosis curve, so highlighting this feature on my body isn’t usually a priority. I went shopping a few weeks ago and saw this blue striped off the shoulder top with bows on the sleeves and knew it was coming home with me. But then it sat in my closet for weeks…. Even I, the fashionista didn’t really know how to style it.

 

My family and I decided to end our 4th of July weekend by going to dinner on the water in Highlands, NJ. The town my mom and her family grew up in so it holds a special place in our hearts! Even though it is hot in July, anyone who lives on the water knows that after 7pm the temperature drops dramatically.  I thought my long sleeve off the shoulder top would look cute and keep me warm by the water. I finally had an excuse to wear it!

This became a perfect summer and patriotic outfit for the 4th of July! We had such a rainy and chilly start to the summer that left most of my cute summer clothes to get lost in the back of my closet. Finally, the weather is starting to get warmer and the sun is staying out to play!

Summer is definitely my favorite season and I also have a very large summer wardrobe because of it. My white shorts or white jeans are a summer staple, so if you invest in one or two good pairs of each they can last you for years. I am constantly wearing the same white J. Crew 3 inch chino shorts with different tops. I literally wore the same shorts every day for a week and no one noticed because I would change up my look by having shirts tucked or untucked into my shorts. I am a big fan of the J. Crew chino shorts because of their length and they can easily be dressed up or down.

This top sat in my closet for weeks with the tags still on, but I love that I finally took it out! I styled it with a silver necklace from Francesca’s to dress it up a bit and my new cork clutch. My Tory Burch Miller Sandals are a summer classic for me. I am shocked I have not scuffed them up after having them for a year, but they are a very durable shoe. They are a bit pricey, but they are lasting longer than any other $20 sandal I have ever purchased. Scroll down for all of the outfit details!

My clutch is currently 50% off and a must have for summer! I get stopped on the street whenever I use it because people ask where I got it from. When I tell them how much it was everyone is blown away! The best part is that it is fake cork so with a Clorox wipe you can wipe it down and keep it looking clean and fresh year after year! If you are a teacher or college student you get another 15% off, too!

My off the shoulder top is currently out of stock, but I put together some other options for you here, here and here. When I shop the items are usually on clearance or major sale, so they sell out quickly! Be sure to follow me on my blog Facebook page because that is where my shopping hauls are posted first.

removing laziness from my routine

I want to start taking a break from social media. I feel like whenever I have a free minute, I am scrolling on my phone or I am constantly refreshing on Twitter. I also wanted to take a break from laying in bed and watching Netflix before bed. I have spent too many nights wide awake watching Netflix instead of getting enough sleep. Making this promise sounded a lot easier when I made it! When I get home from work, usually around 10pm, I just want to put on pajamas and curl up into bed. I love to take off of my work clothes and put on comfy sweatpants that are too big, a cozy t-shirt and fuzzy socks. With my hair in a messy bun, I usually crawl into my bed and snack with some Netflix.

After work I really want to veg out, get some takeout and spend my night in bed leaving my to do list for the next day. But now that I have eliminated Netflix and scrolling on Instagram for hours from my nightly ritual, I find that I have a lot more free time.

If you are feeling lazy or unmotivated, here are some better ways to spend your evenings…

Organize

After work I still came home and immediately put on my comfy clothes. However, now that I don’t have any distractions I have a lot more time on my hands. I always make plans to pick up clothes off of my floor, clean up my bathroom before bed or to put laundry away- but it never usually happens. This week I put on a Spotify playlist and straightened up my room, switched out my winter for my spring wardrobe and cleaned my bathroom. Having a clean space only makes your night more enjoyable and you can finally get that big project out of the way.

Make Your Bed Everyday

This is definitely my hardest commitment to keep! When I wake up in the morning, I drag my feet to the bathroom to wash my face and get ready for work. The last thing on my mind is making my bed to unmake it later that night. It only takes a few minutes in the morning, but seeing a pretty bed all made up is a nice thing to have in the morning. You can’t have your life 100% together, but you can make your bed and at least it looks like your life is put together!

Read a Book

I started my week with 5 books next to my bed that are waiting to be read. Now that you have a clean room, light a candle, crawl into bed and read a book. A few months ago, I would read a few chapters a night before bed and it is something I really miss doing.

Pick Up a New Hobby

You know those awkward orientation games where someone asks what your favorite hobby is and then you realize that you actually don’t have one. Well everyday I am reminded that I don’t have a hobby and this is something I want to change. Right now my hobbies include walking around HomeGoods looking at pieces I want in my future apartment and walking around Target buying things I don’t need. I am looking for a new hobby that is a bit cheaper… the next item on my to do list is to do some weeding and getting the garden ready for summer. I like any hobby that keeps me outdoors in the sunshine!

Night Time Yoga

You don’t need to pay for a yoga class at an expensive studio when you have Youtube in your own home. I started to do a 15 minute yoga video before bed and when my head hits the pillow I fall asleep a lot easier with my body stretched and aligned. If you are looking for something more challenging, Tone It Up has amazing 15 minute work out videos that are great no matter where you are on your fitness journey.

Pamper Yourself

I have a million products that are sitting in my bathroom cabinet that are rarely used. I am committing more time at night to take off my makeup, wash my face, exfoliate and use the right skincare at night. Once I started the Lancome skincare challenge, I have a reason to wash my face at night and moisturize my face in the morning. It’s a nice winding down routine I started at night right before bed. Even if you don’t fuss much about your skin, at least wash your face every night and use a face cream before bed. Your 50 year old self will thank you!

Cook Dinner

My dinner lately consists of a drive thru or a meal that was frozen in a box that took 15 minutes to make. In college, my roommates and I spent a lot more time in the kitchen making dinner than I do now. It is something I miss doing, but cooking for one person isn’t all that exciting. I also have a lot more food restrictions now than I did before. A pain in the butt when I want to make dinner. This week I spent a little more time in the kitchen than I usually do and it is something I hope to keep up with. Don’t forget the wine 😉

Make Your Lunch the Night Before

The first step is to go food shopping and stock your fridge with food that you actually like to eat. I started to make my lunch the night before, and instead of throwing an apple and a diet coke in my purse on my way running out of the house, I actually pack enough food for me not to be hungry all day. It takes me five minutes, but saves me so much time and eliminates stress in the morning. I got a cube sistema plastic tuperware container for lunch that has little cubbies for different food and I pack it up the night before giving me enough food for the next day.

 How do you keep yourself motivated during the week? Let me know in the comments so we can learn from each other.

spring cleaning guide

I have shared with you my spring cleaning rules and tricks and I hope you got motivated to start! One of the biggest challenges when starting the spring cleaning process is deciding where to start. If you have your own apartment or if you are still living with your parents, it is a big challenge to just start cleaning. Questions like what room do I start in, what do I clean out first, how do I purge a closet and other questions begin to snowball and it will never get done because you are over thinking it. I am not a closet organizer or a professional cleaner, but one of my talents in life is that I can deep clean a room in record time and have amazing organization skills. I love the feeling of a clean home that is organized and clutter free. That doesn’t mean that my living space is bare with nothing in it! I just know how to decorate a space or collect items that do not look like clutter.

This is going to be a very long and detailed post so you can clean your home step by step!

When I am bored, I clean and the more bored I am, the bigger the projects I take on. It is impossible for me to just sit still in front of a tv and do nothing all day. So lets just say, I have had years of practice of cleaning and organizing a home, so I have a few lessons I’ve learned over the years.

Plan One of the biggest challenges during a spring cleaning is dedicating the time to actually start. The key part of this is to be realistic about how much time you have and how much you are willing to take on. You can’t clean out an entire house or apartment on a Sunday afternoon and when you make unrealistic expectations, the failure can set you back big time! Instead, look at your calendar and pick a day during the weekend and plan to clean out one room a day. You may think you can get a lot more done in a day, but trust me when was the last time you went through all of your clothes or vacuumed behind your dresser? After work you can pick smaller projects to tackle like where you store your towels or organize the tupperwear drawer. Don’t rush yourself and remember to go at your own pace. Cleaning up a living space can become emotional when deciding to purge items or going through momentos.

Entertainment  For me the most important part about getting this cleaning project started is to set up some sort of entertainment while you cleaned. Put on a good playlist or start a new series on Netflix to watch while you clean. I promise that if you have something playing in the background, you are less likely to get distracted while you are cleaning!

Be prepared Before you start cleaning a room, designate a bag or box for donate, get a garbage bag for trash and get a bucket together of Clorox wipes and Endust. Make sure you have everything you need right next to you before you get started so you can keep going without any interruptions.

 

After Work Projects

If you have some time after work, there are many cleaning and organizing projects you can get done that only require 20 minutes to an hour. Just remember that you had a full day of work and that you may not have as much energy as when you plan to clean something!

Bathroom This should be an easy 30 minute cleaning project if you keep up with cleaning your bathroom. If it takes you more than an hour, you may want to clean your bathroom a few more times a year!

  • The first step is to take out everything that is under the sink and all of the storage containers you have in your bathroom. Have everything on your bathroom floor so you can see how many hair sprays you actually own and easily decide what needs to be tossed. If you have a lot of products (like me!), I suggest going on a a spending freeze for a year. I haven’t purchased a new hair product or lotion in the last year and I am forced to use up what I already own. I am guilty in stocking up on products when they go on sale or impulsively buying something I don’t need and then it just sits there collecting dust.
  • Deep clean with Clorox wipes inside of your cabinets and under the sink before you put anything back. That means clean the walls, use Endust to collect the dust on your trim and use a vacuum to clean out any vents.
  • Before you put one thing back, decide if you really need it. If you have a lot of lotions, try putting one in your car, at your desk at work or at your bedside table. If there is a hair product you never use because it makes your hair greasy, toss it. It is much easier to live when you have very little products to choose from!
  • Once you have decided what you are keeping, try to keep all of you hair or skin products together. I have a tall but skinny cabinet I use to store all of my products and I have separate shelves for my hair or skin products.
  • If you have the room, I like to keep a bucket of cleaning supplies nearby like Clorox wipes, paper towels, toilet bowl cleaner and a magic eraser in my bathroom so I can quickly clean up my bathroom at night before I go to bed.
  • Once you have everything put away, wet Swiffer your floors and make cleaning your bathroom a weekly to do!

Digital Declutter Everyone has a night that they watch their shows on tv, but why not be productive while you are at it? Organize your email and unsubscribe to unwanted emails instead of just deleting them. If you cannot see your desktop background, find places for your files or just create a folder on your desktop to store them in. One of my biggest fears is that I will lose my photos when my laptop crashes. A few years ago, I downloaded Google Photos onto my laptop and it is honestly the best thing I ever did! It automatically syncs your photos to your Google account and in Google fashion, has it organized in albums. One of my favorite features, is that you can pull up your photos by searching for a location or a person in the photos. Google Drive is also a great tool to back up all of your documents as well!

Kitchen Whether you have a small kitchen or a large kitchen, cleaning you kitchen can be done quickly!

  • While you wait for dinner to cook, take on a drawer or cabinet. Remember to take everything down, wipe it down and toss items or put things back to where they belong.
  • In kitchen drawers, your best investment is drawer organizers. You can purchase them for cheap at Ikea or any other store. Give everything a place in your kitchen and make sure you put everything back where it belongs!
  • When was the last time you threw out expired items in your fridge? Take everything out and toss what needs to go and wipe it down.
  • There are a lot of areas in the kitchen we neglect when we think about cleaning. Take out the trash and clean your garbage can. Wipe down your microwave inside and out and when was the last time you cleaned inside your oven?
  • Vacuum and wet Swiffer your kitchen and make it a habit to clean up the kitchen while you cook dinner at night.

Laundry Stick to a weekly or bi-weekly laundry schedule and it will never get overwhelming. I wash my sheets weekly and try to start the week off with no laundry. For a while I could only fit my clothes in my closet when I had a full laundry basket of dirty laundry. That is when I knew it was time to purge my closet! My helpful lessons regarding laundry is to fold laundry as soon as it comes out of the dryer and put it away immediately. Or else it will sit there for days just staring at you! I recently fell in love with Downy Unstopables and it has made a difference in my laundry! When you are doing laundry, it is a great time to toss dirty socks and socks with holes in them. Once a year I get a new pack of socks from Costco and toss my old ones. Throw out anything that has holes or stains that just won’t come out. Also toss out all your ripped or stretched out undies. I love a lace detail but I find that they rip very easily. I know I am getting old when my underwear drawer is filled with more practical every day undies!

Desk Put on a Netflix episode of something, and when it is over, you should be finished. My desk is where bills and paperwork accumulate. The piles build when I bring my mail into the house and things get lost.

  • Take everything off of your desk or work area and wipe it down.
  • Put everything on your floor so you can see it and then put it back to its proper place. Avoid putting anything on your desk to prevent clutter unless you reach for it everyday.
  • Clean out your drawers and try to toss everything. I recently did this and threw out boxes of pencils, markers and sharpies. I kept a few and tossed the extras. I promise you won’t need crayons unless you are a teacher!
  • I have a small table next to my desk and on it I have cute pencil holders I got from Target. That way, all of my pens are together and I have my sharpies and markers in another holder. If it doesn’t fit in there, I tossed it. I go through so many Bath & Body Works candles that I try to reuse the containers as much as I can. In one of them, I have my paper clips, rubber bands and thumb tacs. In another, I store extra nails and screws.
  • I use an accordion document organizer for my important stuff like car documents, student loan or credit card information. Shred anything that you do not need to keep.

Linen Closet How many towels does one person need? I like to have to have two towels per person and then a set for guests when they come to visit. When I did my parents linen closet a year ago, I found towels that were so old that needed to go! The same goes with sheets. Your bed should have two sheet sets per season. You should be using flannel sheets in the winter and cotton or Jersey sheets in the summer. Guest beds should only have one set that can be washed after guests leave and put back on the next day. To save space, I put my towels under my sink in my bathroom or invest in a cute basket to store them in your bathroom. I use a storage container under my bed that I had in college to store my sheets so I can easily make my bed. My usual rule applies, if it doesn’t fit, toss it!

Day Long Projects

These take a little more dedication and scheduling, but once you get started you won’t be able to stop (as long as you have music playing or watching Netflix!)

Closet I suggest starting your first day long project with your closet. In my opinion, this one takes the longest and is the most emotional project to do.

  • First step is to make your bed so you have a clean surface to put all of your clothes.
  • Take all of your clothes out of your closet and lay them on your bed. This is the best way to see what you have hiding in your closet. If you have dressers as well, take out all of your clothes in them as well. You want to be able to see all of the shirts you own on your bed.
  • Before you put anything back in your closet, vacuum and clean every inch! I like to put a Glade Solid Air Freshener in my closet in a linen scent so my clothes keep a fresh scent.
  • If you have a small closet or big closet, you still need to have an organized closet. The last time I cleaned out my closet, I got a hanging closet organizer and it has been a big help in keeping my closet clean! I am able to put all of my t shirts organized by color of course in a cubby so they are easy to grab and go. It saves up so much hanging space so I was able to hang more of my work clothes.
  • I had a few storage containers left over from college, so I used my three drawer storage container to hold my scarves, leggings and socks/tights.
  • Once you have all of your clothes on your bed, it is time to put clothes back into your closet. Everyone has a different approach on how to organize a closet, but I will share how I have mine organized.
    • I have all of my short sleeve shirts hung first in color order and then followed by my long sleeve shirts.
    • The shirts hanging in my closet are shirts that I can wear to work or are more dressy. Since most of us spend the majority of the week at work, it is smarter to have your closet hanging with shirts you wear most often. All of my basic and casual t shirts are folded and put into a cubby in my hanging closet organizer.
    • I use my hanging closet organizer to separate my button downs and my other shirts by having the organizer in the middle. I wear button downs every day to work so I like to have them steamed and ready to wear hanging in my closet.
    • When you go to put clothes back in your closet, hold it up and try to recall the last time you wore it. If it has been a year it is time to donate. I have dozens of J Crew tees that I love to sleep in and wear in the summer that were taking up so much room hanging in my closet. When I changed over to having them folded in my closet it made so much more room!
  • Pants are tricky because hanging them is annoying and in a dresser they get lost. I have a three shelf bookcase that I moved into my closet and I put my folded pants in there. That way I can see what I own right away. I have my work pants on one shelf and denim on another. On the bottom shelf I have my corduroy and colored pants. It makes grabbing pants to wear in the morning so easy because I can immediately see what I have!
  • Get rid of it! Every year I toss all of my white tanks and shirts and buy new ones. After a year of wearing clothes they get their wear and tear. Get in the habit of donating clothes that don’t fit or that you never wear. Throw out clothes that have holes or are stained. Also, if you have had it since high school… throw it out!
  • When organizing your closet, take all of your clothes out, go through them and put them back the Marie Kondo Method!
  • Space really determines how you store purses… I have a small closet so I had to purge about 30 bags I haven’t used in years or that were out of style and have my remaining dozen in a basket tucked away. I wish I had a better solution, but space wise, this is what works for me.
  • I have my shoes in multiple places. It drives me crazy but I just don’t have the room for everything! I have my flats in a shoe organizer on the back of my closet door, my boots are lined up next to my closet and the rest of my shoes are in a trunk in my guest bedroom. (In my future apartment I realllyyy hope I can get a walk in closet!)

Tired Yet? Let’s keep going!

Bedroom If you do it properly, your closet should take a full day to go through your entire wardrobe and put it back. If you don’t have more room than when you started, you did it wrong lol Now that you have a bed clothes free again, it is time to tackle the bedroom. Take everything off of your dressers, off of your shelves and put everything in your room on the floor. Wipe down everything, pull your furniture out from the wall and vacuum everywhere. Now put things back. The key here is to realize what you really need in your life and what you can get rid of. Is there a better place for something instead of where it was originally? Keep a bag designated for donations and a garbage nearby so you can easily toss it.

Room by Room Pick a day and then pick a room to clean from top to bottom and go through everything in it. With the changing seasons, you may not need that many throw blankets out or you may find some Christmas decorations hidden somewhere that need to be put away. I feel like we are always bringing more stuff into our homes, but rarely do we donate or toss our possessions taking up rooms.

Memories While cleaning out my bedroom, I found a few detention slips from high school and some college momentos that I wanted to keep but didn’t need to have displayed on my bulletin board anymore. I have boxes for college, high school, middle school and my younger years to store things I want to keep for sentimental value. This way I can keep these things but they don’t have to be in my way all of the time.

creating rituals

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I woke up this morning and had no clue what day of the week it was. I had to look at my phone to learn that it was Monday. My life lately since coming back from vacation has been nonstop with juggling two jobs. As I mentioned before, I love this chaotic work schedule because it is what works best for me. However, lately I feel like I wake up, get some household chores done, go to work, eat dinner and immediately go to bed.

I need to find some ways to hit the pause button during my running around and find ways to enjoy the day. My to do list is constantly growing as I check one thing off, I will add two or three more things I can get done. I had a rare Saturday off a few weeks ago and after watching tv for an hour I started to get restless. I don’t actually remember the last time I sat on the couch and did nothing all day. That Saturday I got a can of paint from the basement and painted my bathroom a different color because of boredom. Back in January, I had a week off of work and purged, cleaned and painted my basement. Quite frankly, I am running out of home projects to work on in my free time!

My one day off this past week was Thursday and I woke up early to take advantage of every minute I had to do nothing. The day before I had done seven loads of laundry that needed to be put away so I found myself cleaning my parents bedroom, reorganizing their dressers as I put clothes away, and then vacuuming and dusting the entire house. Around 4pm, I received a phone call asking if I could come into work last minute. Without hesitation, I said yes and started to get dressed for the closing shift at work. I need to start practicing the word no. How many times do we find ourselves agreeing to take on more than we can handle? Or changing our plans to accommodate someone else’s plans? I have been trying to get my car washed since February, but other things keep coming up preventing me from going.

At the start of each month I make plans and tell myself that I want to start taking weekly Pure Barre classes, or start wearing my FitBit again or try to get back to reading before bed every night. But at the end of each month, that cookie recipe went untouched, my Fitbit has been dead and I didn’t go to a workout class. With this warmer weather coming (hopefully!), I hope that Spring will motivate me to start turning my plans into actions.

Here are some ways I hope to get back to my daily, weekly and monthly rituals. Let me know in the comments how you get everything done in the day while still having some “me time”.

  1. Start the day with breakfast and coffee
    When we wake up we often start our day running the minute our feet touch the ground. The days I immediately get dressed and rush out the door are often more sluggish and draining on my body. Instead of rushing out the door, I take time out of my morning to make a cup of coffee and eat breakfast every morning. Even if I eat while getting ready at my vanity, I need to start my day with a cup of coffee. It usually only takes 5 minutes out of my morning, but it allows for my body to naturally wake up and get ready to start the day.
  2. Get a planner or to do list and follow it
    Juggling two jobs and usually only having one day off a week if I am lucky leaves little time to get everything I want to get done. I started planning out my week on Sundays to see what hours I am working and what errands or activities I can do when I am not at work. I also block out time to catch up on my tv shows that I missed during the week because if I don’t I know I will never get around to it! I truly would be lost without my planner! I have found that if I look at my week ahead on Sunday nights, I can find I have more free time than I thought I did.
  3. Schedule Exercise
    While I haven’t lifted weights, been on a treadmill or been to a Pilates class in months, I have been aware of how many steps I take a day. Right now I don’t have the time, money or a friend to do a fitness class with, but I have found other ways to exercise. Take a walk, go to the mall and walk around. Do anything that gets you out of the house and just walk.
  4. Keep your living space clean
    I admit that my room looks like a disaster at the end of the week with clothes on my chair, a dozen coffee cups on every surface and an unmade bed. But by cleaning my room once or twice a week I find it now just takes me 5 minutes to put everything away. It is an easy ritual to keep up with, but I can promise it will make you feel so much more relaxed when you have a clean living space.
  5. Light a candle and find some zen before you go to bed
    I have a nightly ritual that I light a candle and dim my lights before I go to bed. Whether I eat dinner in bed, watch an episode of Netflix, or clean my room, there is something calming about having a candle lit. It has become a part of my winding down routine at night and now as soon as my head hits the pillow, I am asleep in seconds!
  6. End the day with a book
    This is something that I have been neglecting lately and want to get back into. For a month I was reading before bed and after a few chapters I would fall asleep. It was some of the best sleep I have had in years too! When you read it prevents your mind from wandering or from getting up to do something.

HAPPY FIRST DAY OF SPRING

I woke up this morning for work (late, as always) and remembered it was the first day of spring. I wanted to start distancing myself away from my black winter wardrobe and add some color since it is spring after all. I settled with a brown sweater and brown corduroy pants because it was still too chilly outside to put on pastels! I know it is going to be difficult to get in the spring spirit because this cold weather and the snow that still lingers. I tried to get away with not wearing my big black puffy coat to work today, but gave in and had to wear it! (I am so over this winter)

I thought this Monday’s post would be some tips on how to get ready for spring!

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