At college you are constantly surrounded by people. Let me clarify, you are constantly surrounded by people your own age. Now in this post grad world I am still surrounded by people. I walk to work so in the morning I can walk past dozens of people but we will never interact. I work in an office but my coworkers are parents and besides the normal office chit chat the relationship is limited. I talk on the phone all day and have people coming in and out of my door to talk to me about a problem they want me to fix. But once they leave, that relationship is also over. I have a fake smile on my face all day putting on this cheery happy persona because half of the time I do not know what I am doing or want to be home on the couch watching dumb reality tv and not at my desk.
I come home to a big house that I share with my parents. For a 22 year old I get along with my parents very well but some days the conversation is limited. I go up to my room that consists of the whole third floor, besides my bedroom there is the guest room which has my tv in it and an office and my own bathroom. That is a lot of space for one person. I started giving myself projects to keep me busy during my free time after work or on my days off. If I am going to spend hours watching Netflix I better do something proactive at the same time, right? To date: I have painted a 2 rooms, redesigned a guest room on the second floor, painted another room and brought in new furniture for a new beach themed library. Even our basement is being cleaned out and purged this summer. My current project is our old storage room turned office. From taking down a wall, installing carpet, purging and decorating. I clearly have too much time on my hands!
A lesson I have learned since being on my own again is that I am okay with being alone. There are a lot of challenges of making new friends and creating a new friend group. I have a handful of people in my life now who I consider to be good friends but distance is an issue. All of our lives are consumed with work and their own lives. It is time for me to find a new hobby besides cleaning, decorating and organizing my house from top to bottom.
I think it is time for me to make an ad on Craigslist: Looking for friend.