I recently started a new job, a new position with the company and didn’t know a single person there. Insert anxiety attack here! I was a bit overwhelmed that first week. I was in a management role that kind of was just handed to me when I wasn’t looking for it. I was in charge of people when I had no clue what I was doing. While being a store manager, I was also in charge of women’s visual for the store, which I have zero experience in. I had a lot to learn and a lot of people relying on me. That first week, I asked a lot of questions and relied on others for help when I needed it.
My first day, I tried to befriend everyone I could. I asked people for help when I needed it and thanked them for their help. I tried to be as transparent as I could that I needed help and relied on others when I didn’t know what to do. I also made a strong effort to thank them immediately and work as a team, rather than telling people what to do.
At work, it quickly became a team effort with all of us relying on each other. I still was able to be an authority figure, but made it clear that we all needed to work together to get the job done. I wanted to work as a team because I think work can be a lot more fun when we work together to get projects done. I explained why we needed to do certain things, sharing the passion of the job with others.
My management style at work has turned into “bubbly assertive”. I am sure that term is not used in a management textbook anywhere, but it is a style that works for me. I found that being nice while asking for what you want is the best way to get things done. At work, I am high energy acting as a cheerleader of the group motivating others to get projects done and working on customer service.
I had people go out of their way to help me when I needed it most because I was nice. I asked nicely and thanked them for it right after. Being appreciative of others work allowed me to create a connection with my other employees that helped develop this team effort. Being a manager is a lot of work and I am juggling a million things at one time. Since day one, I have been carrying around a pink notebook to constantly write a to do list that is forever growing because there are a million things that need to get done. It is nice to know that I can trust people to get things done without asking, or when I need help they are just a call away.
The power of being nice is highly underappreciated in the workplace. I went from not knowing what I was doing (still don’t know everything) and having to rely on the people around me when I was was transferred to this new store. Now because of my coworkers, I know we can get through any hiccup together. One night, I made a mistake at work and because of other coworkers, we were able to get through it because of the relationship we had. I admitted that I needed help, and I had everyone willing to help.
I don’t have all of the secrets of being a girl boss, but being nice goes a long way. I know I would not have been able to survive my first few weeks if I didn’t have the team around me to support me. I have had a lot of jobs in my life and I have found that going to work gets a lot easier when my boss is nice. Now that I am a “boss”, my job gets a lot easier when I am nice to people when I ask for help.